Let me be brief, but clear.
If you saw last season's episode of "The Office" where a co-worker brings her baby in to work, all decked out in pink and Pam says, "Oh, she's SO cute," only to have the mom respond, straight-faced, "This is a boy. His favorite color is pink," then this post is for you.
Folks, if you are unsure of the gender of a baby, *do not* presume to pick one and cross your fingers, hoping that the 50/50 chance is in your favor.
When we flew back to Texas last Saturday, I kid you not that 8 people at the airport and on the airplane called Maggie a "he." Just because a baby is not dolled up in pink and wearing bows, does not mean said baby is a boy. Maggie was wearing a brown and white stripped sweater and jeans rolled up at at the cuffs. I thought she looked pretty cute and hip. Apparently, everyone else thought she looked masculine.
Cab driver: "Is he tired?"
Ticket agent: "Are you planning to bring his carseat on the plane?"
Random airport passengers: "How old is he?" and "What a cute boy!"
Woman in line to get into seat behind us on plane: "Aren't you cute, little man!"
I graciously, and sweetly smiled to one and all and said, "Actually, this is a girl." But, after the third time, I just started to feel a bit stupefied.
Here's how you do it, people. If you are unsure if a baby is a boy or girl and you desire to make conversation, simply say the following:
"Oh, your baby is so cute. How old?"
That last part is the best way at being discreet, but still acknowledging that you recognize the baby is indeed a boy. Or girl. And not an "it."
The loving parent will respond with something to the effect of, "She is 3 months old," or "Evan is one year this week!"
There you have it.
There should be no excuses from now on when you inquire about a baby's gender.
However, I can't help you if the parent answers with a non-descript baby name; at that point, you're on your own.